Ten days after transpersonal psychologist Wilber married Terry Killam in , Grace and Grit. Ken Wilber, Author Shambhala Publications $25 (p) ISBN. Treya Killam Wilber is Terry Killam when you first meet her. She is a She meets and falls in love with Ken Wilber in a classic but somewhat bizarre romance. When Ken Wilber and Treya Killam met in , it was “love at first touch. Grace and Grit is the story of their life together until Treya’s death five years later.

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I think I find it hard to acknowledge help wilbdr someone because it makes me vulnerable, it puts me at their mercy in a way, that they could see me more clearly than I see myself.

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Grace and Grit

Of course we can be mistaken, and sometimes experiences are misleading, but on balance we have no choice but to follow them. I remember how quiet I was as a child, how easy, how undemanding, how uncomplaining. The teaching chapters e.

Yes sometimes the philosophising can be a bit much, and you would need to know something about Buddhism to get some of what’s going on, but still it’s an interesting variation on the theme. It’s been another years, maybe I could even give it another read?!? To be fair, I do think this is largely unconscious on his part, but that still doesn’t make it right. And you come to understand how much he needs to grow himself.

Knocking on Heaven’s Door: Definitely worth a read! For all its intellectual and spiritual energy, this is also a story about love, relationship, and the ups and downs of caregiving, as Ken puts his career on hold and devotes himself entirely to caring for his wife.

Grace & Grit: Spirituality & Healing in the Life & Death of Treya Killam Wilber by Ken Wilber

This is a great book and deeply touching. For example, this description of conversations with Treya’s doctor in Germany when asked about particular treatments used in the US: Wilber presents cancer as a healing crisis, an occasion for self-confrontation and growth.


The reflections on what it means to live well, on how to work with strong emotions and not get swept up in the misconceptions around cancer, are wonderful and beneficial. I have actually read grrit three times and learned something new each time.

This has to be one of the most emotionally touching and spiritually rewarding books I have ever read. At this point her terminal illness reveals itself. Ken Wilber is the founder of Integral Institute, Inc. Ken is a writer and philosopher and this is quite clearly reflected in the book while the two of them try to come to terms with cancer and try to understand why them and why now.

That summarizes her entire life. Wilber writes with exquisite care and understanding.

For example, the best explanation of chemotherapy I have ever come across can be found on page No trivia or quizzes yet. In the past Treya had offered me grounding; now I just wikber grounded. They can give me figures, but no one can tell me. It is impossible to provide frit review that would touch on the depth of this writing or the honesty that flows through it – you have wilbeer read it. If you really want to convince me, help me feel what was special about her.

If this describes you: Not saying he needed to dwell on it or dedicate a chapter to it, but for being such an unsettling moment, he could I gave up on this one.

Not saying he needed to dwell on it or dedicate a chapter to it, but for being such an unsettling moment, he could have allowed some reflection on how that moment my have impacted Treya, himself or their relationship. I finally picked it up this year, and as fate would have it, my mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer while I was reading it. It succeeds as a story of one cancer patient’s experience, as a guidebook for patients and their caretakers, as a love story, as a survey of the world’s mystical traditions, as an examination of death and dying, and as an exploration of relationship as a means for spiritual development.


Amazon Music Stream millions of songs. Imagine 10 days after marring the man of your dreams, starting chemo for the breast cancer they discovered. Amazon Second Chance Pass it on, trade it in, give it a second life. I would love to be doing this better, and I think I may be just a bit too close to this illness to, so just read it instead.

One, Spirit exists, and Two, Spirit is found within. Your cancer still seemed cruel at the end. That was in the mid 90’s.

Grace & Grit: Spirituality & Healing in the Life & Death of Treya Killam Wilber

Was it worth it in the end? He alternates between his narration and long excerpts from Ekn journals, which are, to me, the heart of the book. And science, in my opinion, is stripping us of our infantile and adolescent views of spirit, is stripping us of our prerational views, in order to make room for the genuinely transrational insights of the higher stages of development, the transpersonal stages of genuine mystical or contemplative development.

This is the story of how they dealt with the cancer, the treatment and Treya’s final days.

And for anyone that may say wilbee healing was incomplete, she confronts that very well: SO yeah, wipber is an intense book, a very meaningful, intense book. In other words, repressing certain emotions may or may not have helped cause the cancer, but since you want to stop repressing those emotions anyway, then use the cancer as a reason, as an excuse, to do so. One of the themes of her writing is her own sense of vocation.